Dating Chronicles: A Few Good Men
Welcome to the Dating Chronicles. If this blog is new to you, welcome... and thank you for joining me on this crazy journey of life. Mixed in between heartfelt posts about serving God, family life and my journey from married to divorced (after 20 years) are some comedic relief posts about my dating journey that I've dubbed the "Dating Chronicles".
Thus far I've only blogged about the "funny" or maybe we could call them complete disasters... haha Or the ones that you just can't make up (seriously) - but - after several readers have reached out trying to "hook" me up with their definition of a "good" man... hahahaha - Because they thought I was dumpster diving when accepting these invitations to go out with flatulence sufferers... I decided it was time to share a blog about some of the good ones. I really have met some kind and wonderful men along the way... unfortunately there just wasn't any chemistry there and for this chic - that is a must!
I remember one night in particular where my date picked me up at my house. He insisted on picking me up and coming to the door to get me. He had flowers in hand and was dressed really nice. He opened the car door for me and when I got inside it looked and smelled as if he had just had it detailed. Before he left my driveway he asked what kind of music I liked and then created a brief playlist of the songs I liked. This may seem a tad over the top, but honestly, I thought it was a sweet gesture. I like pretty much all music, but there is some that I really don't like and if forced to listen to it... it puts me in a bad mood... LOL - so I gave a few suggestions and off we went.
When we arrived to the restaurant he had made reservations so we didn't have to wait. Dinner was amazing, conversation was great. He really made me laugh which is a huge plus. Unlike some of the other dates I've had, he didn't fart, talk about himself the entire time, brag about all of his accomplishments or ask me uncomfortable questions. He didn't make any rude comments, he didn't use swear words as adjectives and his confidence (not ego) shined through. He was genuinely a nice guy.
At the end of the night he took me home. Walked me to my door, gave me a hug and said I'll call you tomorrow. And - he did! Haha... he didn't ghost me. He was very mature and as much as I wanted to "like" him - I just didn't. There wasn't any chemistry there. I did give it a few more tries... just to see if a spark would ignite. It didn't. I was honest and told him how much I thought of him and that I wasn't feeling the romantic connection and he confessed he was disappointed but that he understood and would absolutely like to remain friends. And - we have.
There have been many dates that have included picking me up, flowers, nice dinners and great conversation. These men have been absolute gentlemen and I can't say anything negative about them... So why didn't it work out? Maybe it was timing, maybe it was the lack of romantic chemistry, maybe they just aren't the ones God has for me. I don't know about you... but I need a spark, I need to feel chemistry, I also want God to shine a light with angels singing "He's the one"... LOL
If you have read any of my previous blogs, you probably see why I haven't written about the "nice" guys. There isn't quite the comedic tale to tell when they are nice and doing all the right things. However, I do want to give them a shout out. Their respect of my time, my faith and the things I value truly made them shine and I pray only the best for them. I felt like I needed to write about them because comments on my previous blogs and messages were filling up with questions like:
Where are you finding these men?
Amy, can I please introduce you to my friend?
Are you sabotaging your dates on purpose so you can keep blogging? (this is my favorite)
Have you ever been on a good date?
So, I decided to let my curious readers know, that yes, I have been on some absolutely wonderful dates, with some genuinely nice men that were raised right and know how to treat a woman. Unfortunately there just wasn't a spark. I also have to confess, there have been some good dates that did spark - and ended with many more good dates - but then the inevitable - we just can't get passed this one difference and we parted ways.
I'd love to know... What are your deal breakers? I had a list... yes a list of must haves when I first separated. My sister, my bestie and my daughter... hahahaha... sat down with me and we made ourselves lists of what we wanted (and what my daughter wanted for me). It was hilarious. I think we had been watching too many RomComs. That list has been reduced to a few simple things... like good hygiene and loves Jesus. Just kidding - there are a few more things that we need for him to have/be; has a full time job, like minded in politics, definitely a God fearing, devoted Christian, values family and spending quality time together. Makes me feel like a priority and never has me questioning where I stand in his life. I also need chemistry. A small spark will work... lol. You can't force it - Been there - done that - maybe a future blog.. smh... ugh!
I always love your comments and feedback... In light of being called "too picky" more times than I can count - I'd like to know what's on your list? For research purposes... Am I too picky? LOL - You know you have a list. Come on - don't be shy - What's on your list of must haves in a partner? Man or Woman... comment - tell me your deal breakers too - join the camaraderie of the single community.
Until next time on the Dating Chronicles - Be safe - Make smart choices!
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